I am currently a 43 year old female just trying to survive in the world. I recently was "fired" or "let go" because I didn't fill the cheeses in the restaurant of which I worked. I have been employed by this restaurant for the past ten months. I have done everything from delivering pizzas to cooking when the others didn't show up for their jobs. I have a bachelor's degree in Psychology, but was recently very ill in 2002. I had to take a leave of absence from the hospital where I worked (A whole different story). Anyway, when it came to finding employment fast, I searched for daily money, waitressing. This seemed like such a good idea, no major stress, not big expectations, and no reports at the end of the day. Unfortunately, my boss loved to drink wine, as so did I. This was an italian restaurant with no italians working within itself. My boss (the owner), was just an individual with as many character defects and inner problems as the rest of us human beings. Naturally she didn't feel there was anything wrong with her and all of her issues were blamed on other people. We became very close. We were the drinking buddies of the organization. We would sit and drink wine as if it never existed. Numerous times she would roll off of her ergonomically correct ball after having a few. This was in front of customers and every other employee there (all of about 100 different employees) over a period of time. We would laugh and laugh. One day I quit drinking. My blood work was bad and I needed to find a different outlet than alcohol for my day to day problems. She never accepted this. I went into the hospital on 7/13/05 for liver and heart problems. Too young to feel this badly on a day to day basis was what I kept telling myself. When I called the owner and explained how physically ill I felt, a heart felt "Take your time, money is always replaceable, but health you can never buy back", was expressed to me. I felt so good that this person, even though she was no longer my drinking buddy, could so understand how I was feeling. Five days later I was fired!! According to the owner, I didn't fill the cheese bottles. I was only someone who cared about my tips and not the other employees. I was someone who took the cook's child home with me so that she wouldn't have to sit in the restaurant all day because he didn't have a sitter. I was someone that when things seemed bad, my jokes and laughter made it seem okay for the moment. My person skills only enhanced the people coming there to eat. The customers loved me because I made them laugh and made them feel this was the place to be. Everyone knew that the owner was a BIG drinker, and many knew we would sit and share wine and emotions, but everyone also knew I had to stop and take the steps to controlling my own self destruction. Now I am sad that I don't have this job, I liked the customers and made good money, but for some reason I needed to leave this place. This woman's bad characteristics will eventually catch up to her and she will have to answer to her own insecurities. For right now, I am looking for a good place to work, maybe where I can utilize my degree, but not be taken advantage of.
she sounds like a winer who thinks she is perfect and the rest of the world lies at the bottom of her foot. she should get real and live in this world. just because she stopped drinking she thinks she did the world a favor. nope.
You know its not about the cheese and I think we can and we do go over and over this thing in our heads trying to figure out why this did this (ie fire us). I personally need to stop playing the thing over and over. But.........I do think it "hurts" to be fired. Hope you feel better soon. signed: in there with you.
Working there would have been in my opinion too much of a temptation to fall back into habits which could be fatal to you. And if you worked there and the owner had to look at you everyday - sober- then she would feel bad about herself. Because you found the strength to discard an unhealthy habit that was killing you and SHE hadn't. Don't you see? She had to get rid of you, you would have been a daily reminder of her flaw - weakness for the drink and her inabilityor unwillingness to control herself. Keep thinking about doing better, you could always find another restaurant to work in where that behavior would not be tolerated - but prob should look for employment where temptation to drink does not exist.
just wanted to add that I agree with Diana it "hurts" to be fired. You have to realize whether or not you did anything to deserve it or if you could have done anything to prevent if from happening. It's a learning experience. Understanding what happened and why is empowering.
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she sounds like a winer who thinks she is perfect and the rest of the world lies at the bottom of her foot. she should get real and live in this world. just because she stopped drinking she thinks she did the world a favor. nope.
sounds like something that would or maybe even has happened to me! Good luck. I'm sure a better opportunity will come along.
You know its not about the cheese and I think we can and we do go over and over this thing in our heads trying to figure out why this did this (ie fire us). I personally need to stop playing the thing over and over. But.........I do think it "hurts" to be fired. Hope you feel better soon. signed: in there with you.
Working there would have been in my opinion too much of a temptation to fall back into habits which could be fatal to you. And if you worked there and the owner had to look at you everyday - sober- then she would feel bad about herself. Because you found the strength to discard an unhealthy habit that was killing you and SHE hadn't. Don't you see? She had to get rid of you, you would have been a daily reminder of her flaw - weakness for the drink and her inabilityor unwillingness to control herself. Keep thinking about doing better, you could always find another restaurant to work in where that behavior would not be tolerated - but prob should look for employment where temptation to drink does not exist.
just wanted to add that I agree with Diana it "hurts" to be fired. You have to realize whether or not you did anything to deserve it or if you could have done anything to prevent if from happening. It's a learning experience. Understanding what happened and why is empowering.