how a vindictive supervisor can try to destroy your life
I was working for a place, and was not hired by my direct supervisor...she did not like me the minute she met me. She was a new supervisor, and I think she felt like one way to make a "name" for herself with the higher up bosses would be to target someone, for corrective action, to prove what a great boss she was. Well, I got to be the lucky one on the chopping block.
I was older than her, had a more prestigious degree, and more experience in the job than she did...definitely not good. It was nine months of complete hell. She would give me partial directives, then when I went to her for assistance, she would not give me any, so I went to another supervisor, and was accused of "staff splitting". Anything she could do to make it so I would fail, she did. She wrote up a review on me that was absolutely false. The problem, was upper management had to support her, or look foolish for putting her in a management position.
I should have quit, but I put up with the abuse because I am a single mother, and needed the job, and the subsequent unemployment insurance if discharged. However, I realize now, with the opportunity to look back, it would have been better to quit. She discharged me with an ethics violation, true, I was 10 minutes late coming back from lunch with everyone else from the office, and I did stay late that day to make up the time, but that is the reason she sited for termination, lack of ethics and time violation.
So, now even 8 years later, I was filling out a paper for a certification required for employment with a current employer, and it asks if you have ever been terminated for "ethics"...even 8 years later that person is still affecting my professional life. Yes, I did end up getting fired, and was unable to find employment at all for a year, because of her vicious lies about me. It was only after I accepted a menial position, out of desperation, that I was able to build up a good job reference again.
Which brings up a good point, if your former employer is bent on your destruction, for whatever twisted personal reasons that person has for carrying on a vendetta against you, just work at any job to build up a good reference. I have been able to re-cover my professional life. But it took a lot of hard work, and basically starting from the bottom, the way bottom all over again. It has taken me 8 years to finally get into the position earning the same money I was back then. And a lot of work. It can be done though, even when someone destroys your personal reference.
I did have to move from the state I was living in though, as she pretty much trashed my reputation in the area I was working in, I was blackballed from a lot of employers because of her. Life goes on, and while that was a great job, I realize I had the opportunity to learn a lot from that experience.
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i just went through this same experience myself...although my supervisor was older than me and therefore, that much more insecure (for absolutely no reason). i've never been fired before in my life and have no clear reason as to my termination other than that she was intimidated by me and jealous of the attention I received from the head of our company. A woman in the workplace hellbent on seeing your professional life ruined (or at least your place in that company) will do whatever it takes to see that they succeed. I moved 450 miles for this job and now my life has completely been turned upside down for what? Vindiction?